Truth About Friends: The Good, The Bad & The Ugly

Who among us does not have a friend.  Rhetorical question.  Ever been told that to have a friend one must first be?

My little boy is learning about friendship, and as I observe his interactions, I realize that friendship is complicated.  Who is a friend?  Is it the person you see often?  Is it someone who is like you?

Does having many friends mean you’re a nice person?  Does having only a few friends mean you’re not?

Whatever friendship should be, I made this decision.  I will not tell my son who is and who isn’t his friend.  Why?  Because choosing a friend is a very personal decision.

The Good

“Good friends, good books and a sleepy conscience; this is the ideal life.” ~ Mark Twain

I understand Mark Twain’s statement to be the middle of the road, easy-peasy, sit on the fence position about friendship.  As we wander through life, we meet those people we interact with on a regular basis.  Like your ex-neighbour who now lives too far away to see weekly, but we keep contact through social media.  She is someone we can share with about the worry of the month or the bug bite in that part of the body you whisper instead of out loud.  These are the good guys.

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The Bad

“The sincere friends of this world are as ship lights in the stormiest of night.”  ~ Giotto di Bondoni

Then, we have those friends that seem to appear when life hands you lemons.  You may not see these people very often.  In fact, you think of them once in a blue moon, like during Christmases or when something very specific happens.  Sort of like when you’re trying to find that coconut cream pie recipe – not just any recipe but that specific one that people talk about for weeks after you bring it in to work.  You got it from her, who got it from her grandmother, who in turn got it from the friend of a friend of that really famous chef.

No, they’re not bad friends.  They’re the friends who are better than the “normal” friends because these friends hug and wipe your tears when you’re in a really bad place.  They love you, will drop everything they possibly can to stay by you.  They hold your hand until you are ready to let go and wing it on your own again.

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The Ugly

“A friend is one who knows us but loves us anyway.” ~ Fr. Jerome Cummings

What’s ugly – well, the truth about you…and ME.  Let’s face it: we all have our ugly side.  So ugly that we expend quite a bit of effort into pretending that this side does not exist.  Actually, I can’t face my ugliness.  (No, I’m not going to share my ugliness!)

I am very lucky to have not one but two friends who are my “ugly” friends.  And there is no doubt in my mind that they love me.  Even more importantly, they like me.  They put up with me, and they laugh with me.

How do I know?  Well, he chose to stay with me when I could not even bear to live with myself.  And, he’s still here.  Even when I try to pin my troubles on him, he stayed on to listen to my whines and then hugged me afterwards.  Then, he told me that he loved me.

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Your Turn

Before you go, do you know who your friends are?  The good, the bad and, especially, the ugly?  You ought to.  Do it for yourself.

Keep making friends – someone said that there are two kinds of people in this world: friends & strangers.  The strangers are friends you have not yet met.  Maybe we will meet some day, and then we can see what kind of friends we will be.  Until then, take care!

Live Life in Full Colours

A new born baby’s eyes continues to develop after birth.  In the beginning, their eyes can detect black, white and bold colours.  As the newborn grows, their eyes begin to learn to process other colours, to the point where the average child is able to parse bold, light and even shades of the same colour family.

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Newborn

Consider in photography that while pictures can be developed in glossy, matte, soft and many other options for presentation purposes, black and white photos continue to bring about a sense of nostalgia.  It seems that given the many attractive and creative photo options, black and white remains a highly popular choice.

In this same way, I find that some greeting cards are most charming or poignant in black and white.  They bring a sense of the classic, and tugs at the heart strings.  Despite all the colour options such as pink ribbons,, silver cardstock paper, textured paper, beautiful artwork and quality designer papers, black and white most often stands out.

B&W Tux, BeezGiftz.com

B&W Tux, BeezGiftz.com

However, living our life in the absence of colours can mean that we’ve chosen to stop seeing the beauty in Mother Nature.  Life is meant to be lived in full colours – when we can see the subtle pink within the red roses, or the beautiful patterns of the butterfly.  When we choose our outfits and accessorize with a purple leather handbag, we walk with a spring in our step.

Colour Flower

Colour Flower

Before we head out tomorrow, let’s take a colour with us, be it a broach, fashion ring, nail polish or snazzy shoes.  Live your life in full colours starting today!  And send us your pictures.  We will be happy to post them here for you!  Cheers!

OK to Say Sorry

It should be safe to say that at one time or another, most of us have found ourselves undoubtedly knee deep in the wrong.  Whichever way we view our unfortunate position, we owe someone a five letter word: sorry.  There’s just no way out.

We twisted this way and that, squirmed and wiggled here and there, looked up and down and even tried closing our eyes to make the situation disappear.  Some of us fast talkers tried to justify our mistakes.  Like I said, there’s just no way out.  Or in.

The only way to feel right again is to apologize.  Yup, say “sorry”.  And, mean it.

And, what’s weird about apologies is that you have to mean it.  Saying “sorry” while angry, proud, untruthful, or any of those less than genuine emotions cancels the apology, and we find ourselves back in square one, or even worse, minus one!

I made a “sorry” card and made sure it was pretty and genuine, so as to soften the blow.  Let me know what you think!

Sorry BeezGiftz

Sorry BeezGiftz

So, before we find ourselves in hot water, let’s just settle this once and for all.  It IS okay to say, “Sorry”.  You’ll be fine.  Trust me, and good luck.

Hang In There!

When I woke up this morning, I was disoriented and could not recollect what day it was.  That quickly spiraled down into a yucky, sluggish morning that even my usual morning coffee would not improve.

I went to bed on time, and I was properly hydrated.  I had not ruminated on any worries of late and thought my disposition was, though not quite cheery, at the very least on an even keel.

So, I remembered my card, “Hang In There”, that I had made.  At the time I made it, I thought of birds on the telephone wire looking down at the world of people bustling by.  They were quiet witnesses to the tell tale faces.  What do birds think of people and  how we live out our days?

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And while the birds hanging on to the wires in steady balance, how are we hanging on.  I hope this card will encourage someone who is downtrodden or in need of a pat on the shoulders.  Do you know anyone who might need a helping hand, an email or a phone call?